Y no me importa.
Yo no quiero que vivas enamorado
de mí.
Lo que me importa es que vivas
eligiéndome.
Aunque estés enojado, triste, o agotado.
Que aún así, se acabe el día y digas:
"Ella/ El, no sé por qué,
pero ella/El. Mil veces ella/ El."
"You're going to fall out of love with me, a lot of times. And I don't care. I do not want you to live in love from me. What matters to me is that you live by choosing me. Whether you're angry, sad, or exhausted.
That even so, the day is over and say: She/ He, I don't know why, but she/ He. A thousand times her/ Him.''
So many times, we feel hurt or made feel less then due to conversations and comments we have in our relationships. What do you do? How do you respond to your partner? Does your love for them dim because of it?
No judgment over here theses were just some foods for thought questions to ask yourself as you remember altercation, disagreements, and arguments in your relationship and evaluate what you could have done right or better and also to see how some things said or done or ignoring can cause to your partner.
Like I said I am no judge so I can't say much... I KNOW I F*** UP! With a capital F I might as well be the president of this because I'm a total f*** up in all areas of my life. Trust me folks I mean it too, I can screw up a regular conversation by a simple comment or if I bring something up, I noticed. It creates this domino effect causing a tsunami of words and rising levels of anxiety, anger, confusion and hurt and.... How's to blame none other than ME!
Then I'm left their hurt and questioning all means of my life and start pounding my whole existence and everything I could have said or done to prevent this. With my Anxiety going through the roof, I feel a pit in my chest leaving me with this emptiness and slight tingle in my chest/ arm area. for many years not knowing what that was I soon found out recently it is actually the way I have anxiety attacks. all from a simple wrong choice of words or an action/ gesture.
Back to the general topic...
How you respond verbally, or action try to do your best even in the moments of tension and mix of emotions to see how your words can be damaging, the tone you say it, the way you touch or gestures that can cause someone's triggers to be pressed. It would save so many relationships if we took the time as individuals to be mindful of our partners emotions and state of mind and physical being. I speak this to myself as well, I am far from perfect and need lot of work in this area, but I have gotten better and hope this is helpful for you to and your relationship. we can come together and work it out after we cool off and come to an agreement and apologize for our wrong doings and try to move on and love each person as they and as time helps them progress.
I'm sorry for the wrong's I've committed in all our disagreements and arguments I've had with friends, Family, and My love. I know a simple sorry isn't enough and actions are louder than words and I hope you can see one day and remember wow he used to be this way now he has improved so much.
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