This is such a broad topic to hit on but the way I'm going with this is INTIMACY.
OOUUUUHHH...
I know it's such a fine line when someone says they're going to talk about intimacy...
We automatically think Sex, right?
No.
Intimacy and sex are 2 different things, Intimacy can lead to sex but is not sex. I want my fellow men/women that may read this blog realize sex is not the goal nor should that be at the center of any relationship.
First off, God should be at the center of your relationship granite I failed in this area in the beginning of my relationship, but we are headed in the right track now thank God and I can testify it's been a view changer in so many levels for me personally.
I can't lie and say I don't desire her in that way because I do, I'm a man of flesh and bone with flaws and down falls, but we made a choice not to let our intimacy lead us to sex. these couple of day that we have made the change to stop and focus our self's and our relationship back to our fundamentals which is God... And boy has it been a great feeling to be able to go days without any type of affection or our love languages lead to more than that what it is. No hidden motives or secret agendas just pure passionate love for each other spending quality time and satisfying our intimacy and love language in a healthy and pure way just getting to know each other more then we already know of. It showed me my self-worth as a man as well as hers and opened my eyes to see her beyond her body (which has never been a problem).
yesterday was different is such a good way. I felt whole and at peace for no reason it just came upon me throughout my day overflowing into my night with her. Last night we spent it together after she got home after she got her hair done (God she looks gorgeous) and ate later while on the phone with her sister, I grabbed her lotion and gave her a foot massage and an over the shirt back rub, again no secret motive. We danced to a slow song laughing and gently kissing then words started coming out of my mouth that got her emotional and myself, swaying back and forth bawling like baby's I held her tight as she did me and, in that moment, I realized I never want to lose her she is a part of me, she has a part of me and always will.
I also realized intimacy isn't sex intimacy it's an emotion that drives you to a deeper connection with him/her, it's supposed to be met by your actions of kind gestures, meaningful word, acting a fool together, it is meeting your partners needs in a soulful level that sex could never compare to.
Yes, sex is great, but nothing will ever compare to the intimate connection you can grow deeper in with you partner in all the levels of life you may be in such as friends, couple, fiancés, marriage, and lifelong soulmates.
I challenge you today and every day to re-spark that love you felt with your partner in the beginning of that relationship by doing one of the things above that I gave as examples to start off with, don't be afraid to ask him/her question no matter the time length of your relationship with that person. Don't be afraid to spicy it up married couples if your intimacy lead to the bed or wherever, hey by all means go for it.
But let's change the statistics and put more effort in loving ourselves and our partners beyond the bed sheets. So, marriages won't end up in divorce, that children see a healthy way of expressing love in the home so they can be led by example leading their next generation. This will also help you see and collect the data you need to see if the person you choose to be with will be the person you will be with for the rest of your life because without pure love there is not intimate connection just lust and deception.
Let's heal the world we live in and lift the blind folds from our daughter, moms, mom moms, and our boys that will learn to honorable men and learn to love them self's know what self-worth is and love unconscionably at the purest form.
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