the truth will never come out by the other party so it will be here, so one day when the readers read this, they will know the actual truth.
WARNING LONG STORY!
our love story didn't start on Feb 2022 like everyone will eventually know. see I've known this wonderful woman for many years I'd say 8 years of being only and nothing more than friends because she was a married woman. for those 8 years we all hung out together because our group circle was always together serving under the church we were in or just to hangout. we would message each other here and there, never was out of line on either side. We both have text records sense the beginning to have proven if needed. I always admire her; she was the example and the standard for when I would look for in a woman. She is God seeking, beautiful (both inside and out), loving, kindhearted, patient, attentive (big brownie point in my book), she could and can cook and clean (huge point), she is an amazing mother to 2 kids, etc...
She was the total package as you can see and let me tell you she turns heads when she walked into any room or building. we always drifted towards each other to talk about life and so many other things just to have a conversation, nothing out of the norm of course.
She was married at the time to my "best friend" at the time, not knowing he would have the audacity of what he would do in the future to her, me, and my family.
Time goes by and me being a first eyewitness can tell you firsthand for the past 8 years of knowing them she deserved better. I've seen these women devote her whole marriage to loving him and try to be/ feel WORTHY (which she was that and more) to be loved by him. She did everything you could possibly imagine trying to win his love and affection, nope it was never good enough for him. I saw and heard how he would talk to her and act towards her. I can't tell you how many conversations I had with him on about him doing better in his marriage things he could do to show her affection, I even argued with him about how he wasn't Sh** and she deserved better. Throughout the years of knowing and hanging out her no one really wanted to connect with her in our time together as a group not even her so-called HUSBAND if anything he would ignore her, so I always made the effort at least acknowledge she was there as she did with me when she felt something was wrong with me.
eventually ending into him wanting a divorce out of the blue after not wanting to get one because it was "against gods will for our life's"
But enough of that back story... We forward to Dec 25, 2021, we get together for Christmas like we have for the past 3 years. I already know about the divorce, but I get a curve ball thrown at me that night after we all exchange our gifts. He only brought it up to his kids and at the time wife that he would like for me and her to pursue something... I get told the story and I clearly remember nerves laugh/ chuckle it off and thinking to myself is this dude being for real is he that stupid... they aren't even officially divorced, and he was pretty much pushing for the idea of me and her " for her and the kids"... I even remember having a conversation with one of my cousins (she is a girl) a day before during Christmas eve about if the women destined to be mine had kids would that be an issue? would I think I would be a great stepdad? In her words " 2022 will be our year dog we will find our significant others"...
Hmmm?...
mind you she never wanted anyone after her first boyfriend she claimed God was her man...
Back to that night after we exchanged our gifts, and his suggestion was brought up. I go home eating a bowl of cereal then it hits me the questions that were asked the night before... " was it a weird coincidence" I thought in my mind.
I shoot him a message telling him my weird coincidence that came to mind, He tells me something like this " dude listen I was about to message you myself I meant what I said she deserve to be happy, and I have 2 kids that I want to make sure that will be taken care of blah blah blah"...
I responded with "IDK man it's all still to fresh she needs time to heal and process I am not sure if I could or if it would work out".
Something inside me kept screaming it's a trap don't fall for it!! We didn't pursue anything, sure we text a lot more but honestly it was mainly to see how she was doing, if she needed help with anything, and to just uplift her and be there for her. He even said something in that text the night he suggested that that really didn't make any sense (still got the proof)
"Family dinners are going to be awkward"
in my mind I was thinking how? The only "family" dinners are at my house.... another red flag raised so I kept my guard up.
A few days go by, and I get told she was sat down by him, and he lets her know he wants to pursue a relationship with MY COUSIN (the one that asked those questions) ... Talk about infuriating!
she has a break down, so he sends her my way and tells her to take a ride with me to cool off.
the next time we rode around was after new year she was finishing packing to move out and she felt overwhelmed again, so she asked to go riding again (his suggestion) We out smart his behind and get another person to come with because we felt like it was a trap, so we played it safe.
when I met her at the place, I was going to pick her up she just broke so I just grabbed her and let her cry it out. Mind you up until that moment we were just friend we were starting to feel around asking question to see if it could even be possible to make this work. the moment I hugged her as strange as it may sound, I knew I never wanted to let her go I felt at home with her in my arms. I've hugged her before and never felt this, it was so strange, and we didn't want to move fast or anything because of the whole letting her heal process and all, but I knew in that moment I would definitely take the risk and try to date her. She told her dad a week ago or so, so later as we rode around, he contacts me through a text and asked to meet up that same night. so, we get rid of the mutual friend to meet up with her dad and he takes us on a ride like we were part of a movie scene of the Godfather. He seriously asks me what my intentions are with his daughter and to see how serious I was or was I just going to use her like the last 2 boys she was in married too. I think in that moment it eased his mind and he realized my intentions were pure from the beginning and we never committed any sin or cheated before her divorce.
Time kept going and as it was, the day to the divorce was going to be officially finalized was coming up faster than we thought it would in that month we got just know each other continuing to checking up on her and letting her heal spending time as a group never alone of course we didn't want to have any time of leeway for anyone to think this was more than just a friendship starting to lead more and more as days went by into something amazing and so special. The more we texted and talked the more I could confirm I was falling and when I tell you falling, I was falling mad hard for her. Something that never in a million years would have happened or thought it could happen and I could tell she felt the same exact way. still trying to move slow giving her time to grieve and heal we were realizing we wanted this, and we made a pact that no relationship until after the official date so no one could say anything at us or accuse us of cheating even still we have proven with years of messages, phone logs, etc... nothing was going on before and we knew that and carried that with pride.
The day finally came she was officially a single woman I gave it a few days for her to deal with that and let it hit her and see if she was still on board to be my girlfriend. the 12th came 2 days before valentine's day I asked her to be my girlfriend and the start of this beautiful journey.
fast forward again to 6/29/22 and let me tell you this Love rollercoaster has been amazing despite the disagreements and arguments that has shown us growth, dedication, and brought us closer together than ever before. I'm so ready form a family with this beautiful woman I call home. I never thought that I'd be one to just try to jump into marriage I was so on my view about taking my time date for a few years, But no not with this amazing woman. She has shown me how truly blessed I am to have her in my life and how ready I am to be her husband and just go for it and stop waiting for "perfect timing"
This is my story, our story and I know there is so much more i can say but that's a novel not a blog, Until next time my peeps nothing but love. ❤
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